I'm Back—and I Have Something to Confess About My Kids
The autism spectrum + parental honesty = this email
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Stay with me, folks:
I currently interrupt my own regular-enough cadence of publishing my very honest newsletter-first blog/journal email publication community here on Substack to give you all a much-deserved glimpse behind my little unplanned hiatus that is going on...
I have NOT jumped from any tall structure or come to a place of being unable to tolerate anymore of this uncommon lifestyle of my own design... I instead just have been busy being aggressively thrown around the rather new wrestling mat of my own life’s circumstances:
Think: a blip of returning financial worry rapidly followed by a sudden windfall (Mo’ money DOES = mo’ problems, as they say), a 6 year-old’s birthday party and elsewhere behavior during ongoing trials of different Rx regimens for what must be AuDHD, The Great Tables of life’s flux turning rather dramatically (and at hyper-speed) instantly causing vertigo while reminding me of The World Tarot card (which I have indeed pulled during a self-reading recently), grinding along the relentlessly gritty terrain as the solopreneur behind my new membership/community for special needs and autism moms and female caregivers called UnCommon Momma, navigating scary Big School transitions with my firstborn as a fresh-faced Kindergartener, ordering pricey weighted vests to trial at the request of the Special Instructor for my second child... and the list is ever-growing. I could easily go on, if you can imagine.
I encourage you, Dearest Reader of mine to stay with me a little longer as I end my unintended break from writing very soon coming up here...
My very next email letter to you, which is currently being finalized for publishing, will be on the topic of having a “favorite child” (only this time, it’s the autism spectrum edition).
And here’s a teaser for you until that time we see each other again:
“Think with me for a moment. We’d all like to unwaveringly believe in all certainty that a parent of multiple children canNOT regard one child in particular as their favorite among their kids collectively... But we ALL then must come to avert our eyes and silently acknowledge within the deepest parts of ourselves that this ideal just simply isn’t the case in our reality, that someone most definitely can—and many, many do—have a favorite child, often times blatantly so as to be witnessed by the children themselves and the public as well...”
I’m back! I’m real… And life is still spinning so fast. My To-Do list hasn’t gotten any shorter. But writing this and knowing that you’re on the other end has reminded me of why I started this passion project of mine in the first place.
Let’s keep going at it. Together. The real conversations are just getting started, and next time, we’re talking about the thing that every parent thinks about… but never speaks of.
Don’t miss it.
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Looking forward to hearing more about your favourite child, Cheniece. Hope you're okay and that everything is looking up in your world. 🙏
This is a spot-on description of all of the events that have happened. These past few months have been a major transition put in slow motion. I'm happy to see your newsletter again.